Thursday, December 22, 2011

Good Bye 2011

It is the last week of December and, time to look at the good things in 2011, time to bid goodbye.  

One of the best things happened to me in 2011 is getting back to full time work. A long honeymoon turned into a long vacation and then part-time work in the UK was not very exciting. Getting back to Capgemini was the best thing of 2011. And of course living with Abhishek is the best thing happened to me not just in 2011, but I think that’s the best thing that happened to me till date.

The best time we spent this year was in Goa. The Goa trip- wow how I can forget. Thanks to my brother Situ who’s been our constant guide in Goa. It was indeed good to see him after two years. He has gone even darker- I mean this time really dark. He took us to the best beaches both in the north and south of Goa. We checked-in one of the best suites of a boutique hotel in Goa. But the private pool and Jacuzzi of our suite did not have the magic power like the sea. The Morjim in the north Goa was so isolated from the rest of the beaches with just the Brits that it almost felt like the beaches on North Sea in England. The small waves reminded me of the Scarborough beach. But Palolem is different. This is one of the best beaches I have seen in my life. No wonder the Brits are here, enjoying the winter. There is no word to express the tranquility of the beach. Though we thought that the long ride to Palolem from Calangute would be tiring, we were surprised to see our energy level after we reached the beach. I think it was magic of the blue sea and the white sand.  We walked inside beach for almost half a kilometer in knee deep water. The water was still and having no waves. The white-sand made it easier to see your feet on the ground even when we were in 4-5 ft. deep water. We learnt back-floating from Situ. Abhishek almost fell asleep on the waterbed after he started floating on his own. I too loved the back-floating. That was the most amazing experience.  For me, another experience was eating the fresh fishes and other seafood in the beach shacks. Those are so fresh, I had almost forgotten their taste after we left Paradeep 19 years ago. We never had that experience in either UK or India. I could live in Goa forever for the seafood. What else is required in life when your day starts with Mojito, Caprioska or Lemonana (the lemon and mint cocktail) and seafood? I now very well understand why Saif Ali Khan in Dil Chahta Hai decided to become a Hippie and stay in Goa. I don’t mind following him; but yes, I plan to be a hippie with Abhishek, so no risk of getting robbed on the beach. I think after going to Goa, I know what I want to do in life- take the beach on lease and build a happening shack; eat seafood, drink Caprioska and live in the fresh air of the Palolem beach. I saw many foreigners are running their shacks and beach huts in Goa. Another best thing about Goa is that the air is fresh and not polluted. It is the only place in India where I managed to breathe without a stole covering my whole face excepting my eyes. Wow what an experience! It finally made me start scribbling for my blog after two years. Of course Abhishek has been pushing me to start writing again, but I must also give some credit to the amazing Goa.

Now, coming back to the good things of 2011, Shelia’s wedding tops the list. It’s good to see her settling down with the love of her life.

Rila’s getting back to Bhubaneswar from the deserted Jamnagar is also good and moreover a relief to all of us. I can’t forget the fun we had in Mumbai while she was here.

Though I do not want to look at the health issues of Baba-Mamma, it’s impossible not to think about it while remembering the whole year. The time we spent with Biren mamu, Bhuki and Damini also adds to the sweet memories of the year.

Mona, Mommy-Papa’s Mumbai trips are still awaited.

2011 - Overall a good year. Hope 2012 turns better with everyone’s health getting better. Now we are busy making plans for the New Year party. Wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year 2012 :)

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

The First Few Months

If somebody ever asks me to decide the best days of my life, I am afraid I'l not have just one answer. If I am asked multiple choice questions, I wish he/she picks up the phases of life I really live and cherish all the time- the days in my management school, the days with motu-chhotu-motu, the days with aarti-chitra-anup-madan and the days when Abhishek was trying hard on me.

Sometimes I think its better to be a tough girl, trust me the guy who likes you will do anything and everything to make you happy. This is a small advice to Tejal- who is still single and ready to mingle. chhotu, keep this in mind.

Nevertheless, its great when you have a husband who still treats you like the girl friend. You get the unbeatable attention even after marriage. I am glad, Abhishek still treats me as his girlfriend and he says that he's gonna treat me like this forever so what I throw all my attitude on him. He is ready to bear all my tantrums. Isn't it sweet?

Since I am still more like a girl friend, I am obviously more into parties and outings. He still tries to does things to impress me. And I am glad that he is successful every time. Ohhhh am I so predictable? No, but I guess he is just smart:) . I was actually pretending to be a nice wife not a girl friend and started learning cooking. But now that I have realized cooking is no rocket science I obviously lost interest in it. Now I am clear that I better be a girl friend than wife.

The best days are definitely on. Abhishek's world revolves around me and that makes my day. But I am just fearful that what if somebody else tries to intervene in his world and I have to make some adjustment to give some space to them too. Is that how every girl feels after marriage? Its me and my husband- so far so good but then his in-laws, my in-laws, his relatives and mine. His time and attention is shared. So many people trying to enter my space....I am not sure if its the fear of a wife or belongingness of a girl friend.

Sometimes I feel there is some hidden fear lying behind even behind the most perfect things in life. Not sure if its just an illusion or this is real. However I just do not want to think about all these. At least now its just me and my sweetheart and our perfect world!



Life is Good

9th December 2009.

The most awaiting perfect day. Time to tie the knot. Lots of relatives, few friends and my whole family. A very different feeling. Hard to explain. A Feeling that probably any would-be bride will have on her wedding day. Happiness to live life with her beloved and the fear of accepting all new things. I am no exception. Knowing Abhishek and his family, if it were so difficult for me; I wonder how the girls manage in arranged marriages.

Change is inevitable and is definitely for good this time. But the thought of being a part of another family is scary. I think worse that this is the feeling of leaving my family behind- that’s how the Indian weddings go. But how is it possible? For last 27 years I have lived life with my parents and no marriage would make any difference to my life or to the fact that my home is still Bhubaneswar. My parents assured me that it was the thought of the older generation and now things are much better than the olden days. So I am still The Daughter and I remain equally important even if I am married. Thank God my parents don’t believe in the old school of thought that the daughter becomes less a daughter and more a daughter-in-law after marriage.

Anyways the wedding was grand. It was fun- other than the Bidayee part. The reception was good at Patna. Abhishek has been supportive through out. The few days that we stayed at Patna were good. Then we visited my parents at Bhubaneswar and waved them good bye.

We went to Scotland on honeymoon. No other word justifies the beauty of the place other than ‘awesome’. As far as I could see, it was snow everywhere. It felt like heaven. It was the most perfect honeymoon destination I could think of. Abhishek ensured that everything there is at disposal to make it the most unforgettable days of our life.

We came back home just before the New Year Eve so again its party time. Its parties and fun and most importantly love. Wish life goes still here for some time. This is definitely the time both of us want to live again and again. It’s the perfect wedding- the perfect honeymoon- and now the perfect house. What makes this most perfect is that we are so truly-madly and deeply in love with each other.

Life is goodJ