The First Few Months

If somebody ever asks me to decide the best days of my life, I am afraid I'l not have just one answer. If I am asked multiple choice questions, I wish he/she picks up the phases of life I really live and cherish all the time- the days in my management school, the days with motu-chhotu-motu, the days with aarti-chitra-anup-madan and the days when Abhishek was trying hard on me.

Sometimes I think its better to be a tough girl, trust me the guy who likes you will do anything and everything to make you happy. This is a small advice to Tejal- who is still single and ready to mingle. chhotu, keep this in mind.

Nevertheless, its great when you have a husband who still treats you like the girl friend. You get the unbeatable attention even after marriage. I am glad, Abhishek still treats me as his girlfriend and he says that he's gonna treat me like this forever so what I throw all my attitude on him. He is ready to bear all my tantrums. Isn't it sweet?

Since I am still more like a girl friend, I am obviously more into parties and outings. He still tries to does things to impress me. And I am glad that he is successful every time. Ohhhh am I so predictable? No, but I guess he is just smart:) . I was actually pretending to be a nice wife not a girl friend and started learning cooking. But now that I have realized cooking is no rocket science I obviously lost interest in it. Now I am clear that I better be a girl friend than wife.

The best days are definitely on. Abhishek's world revolves around me and that makes my day. But I am just fearful that what if somebody else tries to intervene in his world and I have to make some adjustment to give some space to them too. Is that how every girl feels after marriage? Its me and my husband- so far so good but then his in-laws, my in-laws, his relatives and mine. His time and attention is shared. So many people trying to enter my space....I am not sure if its the fear of a wife or belongingness of a girl friend.

Sometimes I feel there is some hidden fear lying behind even behind the most perfect things in life. Not sure if its just an illusion or this is real. However I just do not want to think about all these. At least now its just me and my sweetheart and our perfect world!

Life is Good

9^th December 2009.

The most awaiting perfect day. Time to tie the knot. Lots of relatives, few friends and my whole family. A very different feeling. Hard to explain. A Feeling that probably any would-be bride will have on her wedding day. Happiness to live life with her beloved and the fear of accepting all new things. I am no exception. Knowing Abhishek and his family, if it were so difficult for me; I wonder how the girls manage in arranged marriages.

Change is inevitable and is definitely for good this time. But the thought of being a part of another family is scary. I think worse that this is the feeling of leaving my family behind- that’s how the Indian weddings go. But how is it possible? For last 27 years I have lived life with my parents and no marriage would make any difference to my life or to the fact that my home is still Bhubaneswar. My parents assured me that it was the thought of the older generation and now things are much better than the olden days. So I am still The Daughter and I remain equally important even if I am married. Thank God my parents don’t believe in the old school of thought that the daughter becomes less a daughter and more a daughter-in-law after marriage.

Anyways the wedding was grand. It was fun- other than the Bidayee part. The reception was good at Patna. Abhishek has been supportive through out. The few days that we stayed at Patna were good. Then we visited my parents at Bhubaneswar and waved them good bye.

We went to Scotland on honeymoon. No other word justifies the beauty of the place other than ‘awesome’. As far as I could see, it was snow everywhere. It felt like heaven. It was the most perfect honeymoon destination I could think of. Abhishek ensured that everything there is at disposal to make it the most unforgettable days of our life.

We came back home just before the New Year Eve so again its party time. Its parties and fun and most importantly love. Wish life goes still here for some time. This is definitely the time both of us want to live again and again. It’s the perfect wedding- the perfect honeymoon- and now the perfect house. What makes this most perfect is that we are so truly-madly and deeply in love with each other.

Life is goodJ